What I wish I had known before I had my first baby…

 

that I would feel completely unprepared for life with a new baby

that breastfeeding can be really hard at times – doing it, getting it right, feeling like I am getting it right, coping with shitty advice, coping with everyone who says ‘just give her a bottle’

that bottlefeeding can be really hard at times – doing it, getting it right, feeling like I am getting it right, coping with shitty advice, coping with everyone who says ‘why are you giving a bottle, surely just breast is enough?’

that EVERYONE will have an opinion on how I look after my baby – from nappies, clothes, cuddles, feeding, work, sleeping, nursery, going out, teething, calpol, to vaccinations

that I would go from a confident person to a slightly insane wreck who questioned everything and couldn’t think straight

that I wouldn’t feel a rush of love for my baby when she was first born yet I would feel as protective as a lioness to keep her safe

that when I did feel a rush of love for my baby girl, it would be the most amazing feeling and that my love for her would grow and grow and grow

that I would want to keep hold of my baby and never let her go, even to relatives

that I would sometimes resent my husband for being able to leave the house without a baby and the additional paraphanalia

that I would be utterly confused and frustrated by the list of conflicted shoulds

that I would feel so bloody brilliant when I realised that the vast majority of shoulds are bollocks

that I would know my baby better than anyone else and realising that would be a great day

that I wouldn’t care less when covered in baby poo or vomit

that I would find my confidence and that I would eventually be calmer

that I would not be doing it all wrong

that cuddles are magic

that my baby isn’t a problem to be fixed

that rocking, cuddling, feeding to sleep, co sleeping would not have any negative impact on my baby at all

that being a parent would be the most brilliant, challenging, frustration, worthwhile thing I have ever done in my life

that it would be ok

 

 

 

About Janine 594 Articles
I am an antenatal teacher, doula, baby massage instructor, postnatal educator, life coach, writer, mum, wife, friend and, sometimes, just me. As an experienced and qualified practitioner, I specialise in pregnancy, birth and early parenting - my aim is to listen, inform, support and reassure when needed. I have worked with parents since 2002 and I set up Birth, Baby & Family in 2011 to provide good information, a different perspective and links to the best products and services for families. I set up the Birth, Baby & Family Centre in 2014 to provide a welcoming, friendly and supportive space for parents across Tyneside.