I’ve had to step in to write today’s Network Blogger slot and I think I’m going to keep it – it’s lovely to be able to write as me the parent as well as me the birth & baby practitioner.
So here’s an intro to me…
I am a mum of three, wife of one and friend to a few. I’m a bit of a workaholic because I love what I do and I’m always learning and trying to do more to reach and support more expectant and new parents.
My work as an antenatal and postnatal practitioner has grown around my family so they are used to having a mum who goes out to births, who goes out to help a new mum, who often takes over the living room seeing pregnant clients.
I am currently on call as a birth doula and they know I could be gone for a couple of days. I was gone for three days once, which made me feel very guilty but I was able to speak to them and I think they get it. I only doula 4 times a year so it doesn’t affect them too often and as they get older, I will doula more often.
My children are used to me shouting at the TV if a woman is labouring on her back, they are used to seeing images of birth, babies and feeding. In my home office I have nappies, bottles, breastpads and a pelvis, not to mention some forceps knocking around somewhere as well.
As a service, Birth & Baby offers more now that it ever has and there’s still more to come with the family centre. As my children need me less, I will do more. But I am still left wondering if I am getting it right, if I am on my laptop too often in the evenings, if my kids feel that work comes before them, if I am trying to do too much.
My teenager is at a point now where she thinks what I do is a bit weird and a bit gross – all I have to do is mention the word vagina and she leaves the room. Sometimes I make that my entertainment.
As a family we have been through a lot – illness, loss and grieving – but we are still standing. It is important for me to be able to work around my children – I am there for them at the end of the school day and I’m lucky enough to be able to teach at home when I need to, to take time off when they are sick and to work flexibly during the school holidays.
I truly love what I do and being self employed can be long, hard work sometimes and, as my business is just me, I have had to accept the busy weeks with clients where I see my children less because then there will be quiet weeks where we just get to hang out.
I feel like I have got the best of both worlds – I work and I can be with my children and I will forever feel fortunate to have been able to do that.
Janine Rudin | Birth & Baby