PCOS and pregnancy

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Local mum and businesswoman Maria has written about her experience of PCOS, weightloss and pregnancy…

 

For as long as I can remember I always had symptoms of polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) – missed or late periods, bloating, ovulation pain, finding it difficult to lose weight and extra body hair, which as a teenager drove me crazy! I was finally diagnosed with PCOS when I was 17-18 years old. That was around 17 years ago and they didn’t really tell you much then, just that my ovaries were full of cysts and that I’d probably find it difficult to have children. At the time I was very young and didn’t really think much about it until I hit my mid-twenties and I knew that what I wanted most in life was to be a Mum. It suddenly dawned on me that I might never have that! I suddenly started seeing babies everywhere and I was extremely jealous of all my friends who were starting to have or plan a family. I tried my best to push it to the back of my mind and instead focused on University and being good at my job.

Then a couple of years later when I was 25 years old I met a man who I knew I wanted to be with and he felt the same. He didn’t have any children and I explained to him that I may never be able to have any. He was ok with this and said it was me who he wanted to be with and that if children eventually came that would be great, but if not then I was enough for him. He was totally understanding and I loved him even more for it.

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We dated for a while and we eventually moved in together. That’s when the serious conversations about children came up. We were not using any contraception but we never got pregnant either. We started looking for advice and I came across a website called ‘Foresight.’ It talked about how much the chemicals and food that we put into and onto our bodies influence our chances of conceiving. I decided I’d follow the advice on the site which was quite intense, but worth it if it meant I would have a better chance of having a baby. It involved throwing out all chemicals I used on my body – including deodorants, shampoos and switching to fluoride free toothpaste. I had to get rid of the microwave as they said the waves that come off it can interfere with our natural state and I only ate fresh, unprocessed food, organic when possible. Then to my utter amazement I discovered I was pregnant within a month. I was never really overweight at this point, I maybe needed to lose a stone or so, but my weight certainly wasn’t anything to worry about and the pregnancy went really well.

The second time I became pregnant I followed what I had done before but this time I also needed to lose some weight. I had become less active since having my first baby and the weight started to creep on. Once I lost a little weight and followed the same principles from the Foresight website, I was pregnant again within weeks. I was delighted.

After a couple of years we decided we would like to try for baby number 3. I just assumed that as we had become pregnant twice before straight away that it would happen again for us without any real problems. I couldn’t have been more wrong! We tried for over two years with no luck and the things I had done in the past didn’t seem to work for me anymore. We decided to give up trying and resigned ourselves to the fact that we wouldn’t have any more children. Another child would have been lovely but we were so thankful and feel so blessed for the two boys that we do have. I decided to just concentrate on being a good Mum and giving them the best life I could.

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What I noticed over the next few months was that my weight had crept up over the time we had been trying to conceive, I think I had been comfort eating to deal with not being able to have another baby. I was sent for another scan on my ovaries which showed I had more cysts than before, which made me feel worse and lead to me comfort eating even more. I had gradually gained around 4 stones and felt really unfit.

Then in November 2013 I decided enough was enough, I may not have been able to have another baby but I needed to look after myself so I could be active with my boys. Of course, some people didn’t understand, they’d make comments such as, “well two children is more than enough,”  “you should be lucky that you have any kids. Some people can’t have any,” and I know they were right, they ARE right, and I agree completely with them. I never once felt ungrateful or unlucky, however I needed to grieve for the fact I’d never have another baby and once I had done this I was able to start to feel much happier and confident and able to start to make changes to my life style.

In December 2013 I met a lady called Ange who is really into health and fitness and owns a business selling health and wellness products.  The business is called Forever Living and they are the world’s largest manufacturer of aloe vera products in the world. I started to use the products and I felt amazing. The weight has literally dropped off me and in the last few months I’ve lost around 3 stone.

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Then in January 2013 a little miracle happened. At a routine visit to the doctors, I found out I was pregnant. I couldn’t really take it in at first but obviously I am so happy about it. The doctor said she thinks it was due to the weight loss, which was a result of joining Forever Living, and the fact I was happier and more relaxed about things.

I loved the Forever business so much, as I know the products are amazing, and seen how much they have helped others, that I decided to sign up and become and independent distributor. It’s amazing how many baby stories we hear about after people have used our products, e.g. the aloe drinking get or the Clean 9 program especially. Of course, there is no scientific evidence to support this at all, but lots of women, including myself know that Forever has had an amazing benefit on their life.

Right now, I’m 13 weeks pregnant and I feel so blessed. I realise how extremely lucky I am and I will cherish each of my children always, they really are my special gifts. I know this will be my last baby so I’m trying to enjoy each moment; I know this baby will bring tremendous joy to our family and I’m looking forward to the future.

If anyone has been affected by my story or would like to ask me any questions about what exactly I have done to help me to conceive, then please do feel free to get in touch, I’d love to answer any questions you may have. You can contact me at enquiries@mariaalbertsen.com or find me on Facebook www.facebook.com/foreverglowinghealthproducts

With love

Maria x

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I am an antenatal teacher, doula, baby massage instructor, postnatal educator, life coach, writer, mum, wife, friend and, sometimes, just me. As an experienced and qualified practitioner, I specialise in pregnancy, birth and early parenting - my aim is to listen, inform, support and reassure when needed. I have worked with parents since 2002 and I set up Birth, Baby & Family in 2011 to provide good information, a different perspective and links to the best products and services for families. I set up the Birth, Baby & Family Centre in 2014 to provide a welcoming, friendly and supportive space for parents across Tyneside.